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Making Kids More Independent

My husband and I have been changing the responsibilities of our children.  He thinks I am too easy on them.  I do what I have pretty much always done.  I cook, I clean, I do laundry, I grocery shop.  I do all of the mom stuff.  Since I don’t work outside of the home, I feel like it is my job to keep things looking good around the house.

My husband feels entirely differently.  He feels that our big boys 17, 16, almost 15, and 12 are very capable of doing chores etc. around the house.

I know that they are capable.  I know that they can do chores and they have several that they are each responsible for taking care of.  They don’t always do the job to my expectations, of course, they are kids.  We are working on it.  My husband thinks that they grow more and more capable by making them step up and handle more responsibilities.  He is right.  I know down deep that these kids have to be able to take care of their laundry, be able to cook, and clean a dorm room or apartment, etc.

The hard thing for me is letting go of the stuff that I have always done.  I always did the cooking.  Now one child does the cooking each night.

I’ve always done the laundry.  Now the kids are taking turns.  They must wash, dry, fold, and have each child put their things away.

I’ve always cleaned the kitchen and started the dishwasher.  Now the children do it.

It is a big relief to me mentally to know that I am teaching my kids how to manage on their own, but who is with me that it is hard to follow through with it.  It is hard to see them running low on clean laundry (they don’t seem to mind), it is hard to stand there in the kitchen pointing out all of the stuff that needs to be cleaned up after dinner and not do it yourself.  It is hard to see them struggle with something that I could do quickly and easily.

I have to keep my eye on the big picture.  They will be moving on soon enough.  I have to prepare them to the best of my ability to be successful with all things.  Boys need to know these skills.

How about you, did you prepare your kids to be out in the real world?  What are the critical skills that they should know?

Ann

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Feeling Great!

We have been off of school for a week now!  I am enjoying driving the kids around much less!  We have set up a routine where the kids do an hour of reading, some chores, some school work, and then a project that I want to work on for a while, and then something fun for the kids. The bigger kids also have special  projects that they are working on in addition to what the little ones are doing.  For example, M is working on his Eagle Scout project, J is working on College stuff, and R is working on getting more organized. So far it is working well.  I have an excel spreadsheet on the fridge with boxes for each kid to mark off.

Here are a couple of pictures of our leisure time reading and working on projects.

J and S reading and enjoying leisure time this summer.

J and S reading and enjoying leisure time this summer.

A buried herself in cushions to read because she was freezing cold.

A buried herself in cushions to read because she was freezing cold.

So far we have been to our local Y’s outdoor pool.  The little ones loved it, but the big kids said it was freezing.  Since they were out of the water, it gave us some much-needed time away from the little ones just to talk.  It was nice.  We also went to a local flea market where my oldest works on the weekends.  We waved to him while we were there, which was super fun for A.  Girls are so much different from boys.  Here are a couple of shots of the flea market.

Pony rides for $5.

Pony rides for $5.

A riding "Chocolate Chip"

A riding “Chocolate Chip”

A loving on a horse statue.

A loving on a horse statue.

A hanging on a gorilla statue.

A hanging on a gorilla statue.

A getting her picture taken with a snowman in June.  Only in Ohio.

A getting her picture taken with a snowman in June. Only in Ohio.

We are off to a great start this summer!  Now to stay consistent.  It is not easy for me, but with a plan it should be easier.  Here’s to some much-needed rest and relaxation!

We Are On Summer Vacation!!!

Today is our first day of summer vacation.  I have been super busy over the month of May.  But as of today all of our school stresses are over.  Also, Cub scouts are done for the summer.  American Heritage Girls are done for the summer.

While there are a lot of things that I wont have to do like get up for school, quiz the kids on school work, help with school projects etc.  there  are some things that are in full swing now.  We have to get our 4H projects up and running.  We have to have J study for the ACT, look for colleges, find a newer vehicle, apply to colleges, apply for scholarships etc.  That will keep him busy all summer, I’m sure.

I am planning on keeping fit.  My friends and I are working on a workout schedule for the summer.  So far we plan to workout at 7 or 8 am,  5x per week.  I am planning on doing Cross-Fit 2x per week, a spinning class 1x per week, a long run on Saturdays, a 3 mile run 1x per week, and sprints 1x per week.  That should help me achieve my goal of running the 5k without stopping by the end of the year.

I am excited to be less scheduled than I have been.  The kindergarten year of being at school 3x every day has worn me out!  The good news is that I don’t have to do that schedule for 5 years when L is in Kindergarten.  In the fall everyone except L will be in school all day.  It is good, but a little sad at the same time.  This is the first time in 14 years that I won’t be at school during midday to pick up a preschooler, a pre-kindergartener, or a kindergartener.

I’m ready to have some fun, relax, and get some stuff done around this house.  I have my garden in and I will include pictures in my next post.

Here’s to a fun summer!

 

 

 

Been Gone Too Long

I am back for a post or two until the kids get out of school.  I should have more time for posting during summer vacation.  Let’s hope so, I miss blogging!

Where to start… I have been super busy with the kids.

  • A went to her first father/daughter dance.  She absolutely loved it.
  • A jumped off of the low diving board,
  • M is still working on his Eagle Scout project.
  • J went to prom.
  • My husband went to California for a week.
  • 4H is in full swing and J is our club president!
  • AHG is winding down now, just the awards banquet left!
  • L is rolling over now.
  • My husband is helping me with household updates.
  • T had his school musical.
  • J turned 17.
  • The kids went roller skating with our 4H group.

We have also had a couple of neighbor dogs that keep going after my chickens.  Killed 2 roosters in the first attack and killed 4 hens on the second attack.  I am still very angry about it.

We bought 2 turkeys, 3 guineas, 3 Bantams, and 7 miscellaneous pullets to  replace our dead chickens and build our dwindling number of chickens.

Here are some pictures of what’s been going on around here.

A jumping off of the low diving board.

A jumping off of the low diving board.

A going to father/daughter dance with my husband.

A going to father/daughter dance with my husband.

J's 17th birthday.

J’s 17th birthday.

R skating

R roller skating.

T and A in school musical.

T and A in school musical.

A cute picture of Stevie and me.

A cute picture of  S and me.

My husband putting up blinds.

My husband putting up blinds.

L rolling onto stomach.

L rolling onto stomach.  She is a drooling machine.

M working on a computer.

M working on a computer.

I hope to be back soon!

Sickness All Around

S and A feeling a little under the weather.

S and A feeling a little under the weather.

I have been trying to post more consistently, and I have plenty to say, but right now I have to tend to the family. We have had 3 kids puking in the last 15 hours. I am on clean up duty. I hope it leaves as quickly as it started. We are having a Star Wars and Spongebob Squarepants movie marathon today for those who are sick. The rest of us are praying we don’t get it!

R recovering.

R recovering.

I will return to posting soon. What a way to spend Easter vacation!

Ann

Easter Weekend

We had a wonderful visit from my parents for Easter weekend.  Saturday was absolutely gorgeous.  I am beginning to think that Spring really is coming to our neck of the woods.  With the forecast for rain on Sunday, we had an Easter egg hunt on Saturday.  The smaller three had a bunch of eggs hidden around the yard that have different amounts of change in them.  The bigger three have one bigger egg that has a $10 bill inside.  No one seems to be too big to find an egg with 10 bucks inside!  It was fun.  The kids all end up with $10 and they love doing this every year with my parents!

The $10 egg!

J with the $10 egg!

The three little kids helped me make Easter Nests on Friday.  I got the recipe from Food.com and got the ingredients beforehand.  They liked making them and they were festive.  Here is a picture of how they turned out.

A plate of Easter nests.

A plate of Easter nests.

Here are a few pictures from the weekend.  Fun was had by all.  It was great to see my parents and have a wonderful Easter celebration!

Easter egg hunt.

Easter egg hunt.

Mom and L.  Look at that chubby leg!

Mom and L. Look at that chubby leg!

Dad and L.

Dad and L.

R with his Easter basket.

R with his Easter basket.

L in her Easter dress.

L in her Easter dress.

T was sick vomiting overnight, so he didn't have much energy for the egg hunt.

T was sick vomiting overnight, so he didn’t have much energy for the egg hunt.

S coloring eggs.

S coloring eggs.

M with his basket.

M with his basket.

Too much Easter candy!  We are so blessed to have a wonderful family.

Too much Easter candy! We are so blessed to have a wonderful family.

Sisters

A L 3A L 1

 

Ac

A L 6

A L 7

A loves her sister so much.  I am so blessed to have them!!!